5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SACRIFICE FOR A RELATIONSHIP 

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SACRIFICE FOR A RELATIONSHIP  1. YOURSELF. When you are in a true relationship that is balanced, you should never be required to change for companion/spouse to maintain the relationship; the person that God designed for you will accept you for who you are, flaws and all. Your divine mate would…

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Death to Noise written by Sonya McKinzie

You are the truest truth The most real reality Your heart is purer than the word itself Your presence is warm on the coldest day You bring solace to my inner pain You heal every broken space You erase the hurt from every inch of me You are death to noise You are death to my…

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Uncomfortable

It would not be unusual for me to say that I do not understand why God guides me to places outside of my comfort zone. It is a typical act to wonder why we experience obstacles when we are living our life “Right”. I admit that it was hard to comprehend how I was once so…

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Live with Passion & Trials and Tribulations

Since the launching of “Women of Virtue Transitional Foundation, Inc”it has been such a challenge to say the very least. Several years ago, I realized my passion and my purpose, to help Domestic Violence survivors and their children with support services, programs, referral services, mentorship, and advocacy. In making this decision, I opted to invest…

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Lighting your candle

One of my deepest battles in life has been dealing with the feelings of inadequacy. Amid the layers of feeling inadequate are the feelings of vulnerability. It is simply impossible to allow yourself to be vulnerable without having some reservations. Hidden deep inside of you, and I is a space that is sacred, destined, and inevitably…

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Go, go, and go then keep on going….

  In recent years, I learned to embrace the power of clarity, complete understanding. One evening, I recall laying in bed thinking about my passion, to be a CEO of my own organization.The vision of being the CEO and President of an organization geared towards human services pulled at my heart strings like a fish on…

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He stays with me

By: Sonya McKinzie He stays with me In the darkness In the stillness of the nigh While the stars twinkle so bright He stays with me I am never alone God is here In this wide open space In the darkness I am comforted In the silence of the nigh I am not afraid Because…

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Your support is needed: Women of Virtue Transitional Foundation Inc Tee shirt campaign

  Good afternoon fellow WordPress followers and bloggers, Please support our newly launched nonprofit organization, Women of Virtue Transitional Foundation Inc, tee shirt campaign. Through your purchases and donations, we will be able to provide services to domestic violence survivors and homeless women in the Gwinnett, Barrow, and Walton county areas. Through our programs we…

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To be or not to be empowered – “What is the question?”

 In a monologue from William Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet says “To be, or not to be—that is the question” and those words motivated today’s blog content.  When I think of our ability to empower our lives, I think about how we often take advantage of our many opportunities. Like Hamlet, many of us find ourselves dissatisfied…

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I want more- is an understatement

Written by: Sonya A McKinzie To imply that I want more from life Is a simple and complex understatement that more means to grow and evolve into someone and something different Like – Educated, Empowered, and Evolutionary And- Spiritual, Social, and Secure To imply that I want more Is far-reaching Than what you see on the…

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Psalm 147:3 — He heals the brokenhearted

As humans we are creatures of habit. Often times habits are not favorable, and that’s the time to ask God for help in changing them. This past weekend I had the opportunity to assess several areas of my life and in this “space” this “process” I shed many tears. There was an outpour of sadness-…

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Choices

With every passing day we are faced with choices. The importance of the choices and the consequences of the decision made could be minor, such as which pair of earrings should I wear, while other decisions can be life altering. Many choices that we make can impact our lives immediately, other choices might affect us…

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Domestic violence and the ability to move beyond it

Being an ex-victim of domestic violence, I will be first to say that like alcoholism and alcoholics, you never quite recover from the experience. Wounds heal, but emotional remnants remain. It is interesting the effects that physical and mental abuse has on a person. Masses of people experience abuse in their affairs or know someone…

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In today’s service at church, God placed it on my heart to “Celebrate someone else” and let them know they are appreciated. Often times, we get so wrapped in ourselves, our needs, our wants, and our world, that we fail to realize that the people around us might need a pat on the back, a…

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Free autographed book!

Just a reminder: Perfectly Imperfect – New Book Give Away Interested in receiving a “FREE” autographed copy of my new book Perfectly Imperfect: Moving Above and Beyond the Pain? In order to be eligible for the book give away, you must complete a review of my book excerpt between 11/14/2015 and 12/15/2015. There are four questions…

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Perfectly Imperfect – New Book Give Away

Interested in receiving a “FREE” autographed copy of my new book Perfectly Imperfect: Moving Above and Beyond the Pain? In order to be eligible for the book give away, you must complete a review of my book excerpt between 11/14/2015 and 12/15/2015. There are four questions at the end of the excerpt and each must…

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Spirituality: Humanly imperfections

One of my faults lies in my “worrying gene”. Often, I allow myself to worry over “this” and “that” while I am well aware that my worrying never has or ever will resolve an issue. I have often imagined how wonderful it would be to be a little more carefree like raindrops or leaves that…

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He + Me = We by: Sonya A McKinzie

He flows through my mind like streaming water Then drips down slowly All over me Then he bursts Roaring into an explosive eruption down pours All over me He His love is all over me His love is inside of me He and me He + Me = We Connected to create we Our creation…

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Colorfully black and white, wouldn’t you say?

It is funny how my creative, yet constantly thinking mind works, it seems that from every conversation I have whether it is with a stranger, friend, family, or co-worker somehow I walk away with a new outlook on some perspective in life.  Like a child released to the “world” I am filled with curiosities and…

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Trust Issues by Sonya McKinzie

You won’t catch me in a weak moment To trust means to be vulnerable To trust means to believe in you And I don’t trust you Perhaps, I do not trust myself When I trusted someone before They broke my heart into two pieces trust issues are a result of giving in to vulnerability for…

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non-factorial black girl

She is a visionary. Her mind is filled with mind-boggling designs of imagery. She leans on dreams, theatrical, hypothetical dreams. She knows exactly where she wants to be personally, professionally, and spiritually but realistically she does not know how to achieve what seems to be the in-achievable. While she carries herself with confidence, it is…

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Powerful words of encouragement (Hump Day)

The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within – strength, courage, dignity. –Ruby Dee All great achievements require time. –Maya Angelou Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine within yourself so that you can hear it in others. – Marian Wright Edelman Is solace anywhere more comforting…

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Embrace and love your flaws, God makes no mistakes (no matter what people say)

As women, we often find ourselves sitting and chatting about this and that. Further, we discuss relationships, the skin we are in, happiness, sadness, relationships, family, finances, our butts and how we look in certain things, and while the things we discuss definitely are not topics that men would talk about, we relate and connect…

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Conditioned by God’s design

by: Sonya McKinzie Imperfect As we should be Perfect and Conditioned by God’s design Destined for a oneness Bonded to one another With God at the center Fittingly impeccable as companions Authentically tied to one another For now And for eternity Copyright © 2015 by Sonya McKinzie. All rights reserved. This poem or any portion thereof may not be…

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Daddy I need you….

by: Sonya McKinzie When I am sad melancholy feeling a little mediocre missing the presence of you That gentle kiss you place on my forehead I have no qualms about saying “Daddy I need you” Your touch is like a cold drink of water on a hot summer night Your words caress my ego pushing…

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It comes naturally (an ode to brown women)

by: Sonya McKinzie Brown Flawlessly Brown Beauty Beautifully crafted God’s design She is Simply breath-taking Her essence speaks volumes yet she does not part her lips to speak A permanent tan One that she was born with Intricately Uniquely Powerfully Brown Unaltered Unchanged Natural Brown Dangerous and Exotic Secrets woven into the depths of her soul She is mystical…

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Control vs Choices

  Countless are the faces of people who have at some point experienced a sense of helplessness or hopelessness. Losing complete control and realizing that they cannot regulate what is entirely out of their hands. No means of beginning or stopping a situation, but instead being forced to allow nature to take its course of…

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Song of Solomon: Basking in love and sex in marriage ….

As a Human Services Major attending a Christian college, I am required to read various materials associated with mental health that is associated with diseases, addictions, abuse, amid many other subject matters. This term, I am taking Healthy Sexuality and Sexual addiction. These two courses are two of my three last courses required to complete…

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Reflection in a mirror

  Today I had a very candid conversation with someone. This person placed a mirror before my face and there I sat staring; looking back at this beautiful black woman and I began to remember… how I came to be a woman of confidence, happiness, and peace. No, every day is not perfect, but it…

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Think. Dissect. Recollect. Rationalize and Contemplate on it.

  There is nothing more rewarding than finally reaching a goal that you struggled to reach, or obtaining something that you strived to get especially when you overcame countless obstacles along the way. It is like being in the darkness and unable to find a small shimmering light after walking miles, miles, and more miles. And…

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Bare. Naked. Cleansed, fresh, and new…

In the presence of God, bare and naked….. at the center of the four corners of the walls, and down on bended knee and head bowed in prayer, I say “God, what is it that I am to do”, “How should I serve your graciously in your kingdom”, and “Where is my place, home, and destiny”…

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God sent me a word: Romans 8:28

It is 1:15 a.m. and I am restless. There is much on my mind, and in the midst of it all God never cease to amaze me. He sent his word to me through a perfect stranger and a random email. The person told me to lean on Romans 8:28 and ironically a friend referred…

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Authentic sexuality

Authentic sexuality by: Sonya McKinzie Prolific is she authentic sexuality hips designed to bear fruit She is simply blessed blessed by God our savior God has gifted her with children like an apple tree in a vineyard fertile a result of God’s design the union of a husband and wife sacred, in martial bliss conceived from God’s kiss…

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Assassination of negativity

  The assassination of negativity by: Sonya McKinzie There is no place for it negativity there is no place for it inside of me It has been assassinated cut down cut out no longer capable of getting the best of me No more negativity The is no longer an open door It has been pulled…

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What is meant for me ….

What is meant for me by: Sonya McKinzie What is meant for me cannot be taken away from me. While I might endure struggles with trials and tribulations along the way the result is God’s divine mercy on me; his sacred intervention, and favor in me defines what is meant for me. No one person…

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Getting over a broken heart

  “My heart might be bruised, but it will recover and become capable of seeing beauty of life once more. It’s happened before, it will happen again, I’m sure. When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive–I’ll find love again.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Zahir

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A Black Woman’s Lingering Pain

Sitting here on a Saturday evening, I am watching the rain hitting against the grass outside of my balcony door and immediately mind wonders to being in deep conversation, snuggled up and spending quality time unwinding. Then I think about my little one asleep in the other room taking her afternoon nap and begin to…

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Abstinence: A Single Mother’s Journey

This is a personal journey that I am currently in the midst of. I am on day 270 of my 365 day journey. It was not until a few days ago when I began to evaluate my current lifestyle and my relationship status, that I realized just how long it had been since I shared intimacy with…

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Beauty is..

Beauty is defined by eyes of the beholder In it’s presence it could be humble It could be arrogant Or unknowing Beauty goes deeper than the skin Beauty goes deeper than the surface Beauty is eloquent Beauty is spiritual Beauty is emotional Beauty is soulful Beauty is pure Beauty is dirty Beauty is clear Beauty…

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When the chips are down

Over the past month, I have found that I have not been as faithful to my followers as I normally am. I have not been faithfully posting and sharing, encouraging, motivating and, purging myself of my day-to-day ins and outs and I apologize. Somewhere along the way, I have allowed the monotony of life to…

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Spiritual Bread Written: by Sonya McKinzie

Sister girl I have been there and did that Forgiving but never forgetting The words The abuse The disrespect The brokenness The bruises emotionally and physically After years and years, I had enough And I broke away Walked out the door Closed it behind me Gathered up my shattered pieces Regrouped Started new Rebuilt the…

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Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow ….

Today was a usual day, nothing special, nothing unique, yet it was unusually typical. I looked in the mirror and saw the same face, the 38-year old smile, melancholy in mood, and the same dark complexion skin that I was born in. Standing before the T.V, I turned to the news and saw a similar…

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