5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SACRIFICE FOR A RELATIONSHIP 

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SACRIFICE FOR A RELATIONSHIP  1. YOURSELF. When you are in a true relationship that is balanced, you should never be required to change for companion/spouse to maintain the relationship; the person that God designed for you will accept you for who you are, flaws and all. Your divine mate would…

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Walk in Your God-Kissed Purpose

Photo Credit: Lady of Purpose When I opted to write my second book “Perfectly Imperfect: Moving Above and Beyond the Pain, I was charged to make a difference through my writing, words, and actions – I was focused on helping survivors of all kinds but more specifically domestic violence.  I recall a message delivered by…

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Chances are…

Today, I in the middle of an eventful day at work, I thought about last night and the worries that invaded my peaceful slumber… Like a thief in the darkness, it swept away my peacefulness. Through my subconscious, I found that I was worried about something completely out of my control “Someone else’s actions”. Subliminal…

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Death to Noise written by Sonya McKinzie

You are the truest truth The most real reality Your heart is purer than the word itself Your presence is warm on the coldest day You bring solace to my inner pain You heal every broken space You erase the hurt from every inch of me You are death to noise You are death to my…

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Undesirable Solitude

Sometimes I feel like a target, when it comes to dating and relationships.  From a personal standpoint, I have experienced brokenness, cheating, disrespect, abuse, and growing a part and while it might not have always been my fault, I must take the credit from some of it.  In many of my relationships, when we disagreed…

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G.O.V.E.’s first M-Power Me Workshop

Women of Virtue Transitional Foundation’s first Girls of Virtue Empowered “M-PowerMe Workshop” was a blessing. The turnout was low, but the influence was high! So very blessed… I will be hosting another one soon and I will plan an d present that one like I did today, like I am working for God, because I am….

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Support an event

During the month of October there we will many, many, many events going on, recognizing Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention. Amid these events, Women of Virtue Transitional Foundation Inc. will be hosting their 1st annual event in Lawrenceville, Ga. Sonya Mckinzie is pleased to share the evening with some amazing people who are supporting amazing cause,…

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The Power in Encouragement

I am in a season; it is a very challenging one. I believe it is fair to say that when we are in a season of challenge, it can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It often feels like you might be stagnated and in that season, it is…

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Lighting your candle

One of my deepest battles in life has been dealing with the feelings of inadequacy. Amid the layers of feeling inadequate are the feelings of vulnerability. It is simply impossible to allow yourself to be vulnerable without having some reservations. Hidden deep inside of you, and I is a space that is sacred, destined, and inevitably…

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Go, go, and go then keep on going….

  In recent years, I learned to embrace the power of clarity, complete understanding. One evening, I recall laying in bed thinking about my passion, to be a CEO of my own organization.The vision of being the CEO and President of an organization geared towards human services pulled at my heart strings like a fish on…

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To be or not to be empowered – “What is the question?”

 In a monologue from William Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet says “To be, or not to be—that is the question” and those words motivated today’s blog content.  When I think of our ability to empower our lives, I think about how we often take advantage of our many opportunities. Like Hamlet, many of us find ourselves dissatisfied…

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Fearfully wonderfully made…

Confidence is one of the most beautiful things that a woman can wear. A Christian woman bears confidence regardless of her situation and circumstance. As a woman of confidence, there is no fear in revealing who she is at the “very core of her being”. Whether the woman is plain and simple, eclectic, and beautiful; or…

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God works in Amazing and Mysterious ways

God works in amazing and mysterious ways and I am blessed by his presence in my life. It has been several months since my schedule has allowed me to have consistency in my postings here on my blog and I have much to share. First and foremost, my book Perfectly Imperfect: Moving Above and Beyond the…

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In today’s service at church, God placed it on my heart to “Celebrate someone else” and let them know they are appreciated. Often times, we get so wrapped in ourselves, our needs, our wants, and our world, that we fail to realize that the people around us might need a pat on the back, a…

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Free autographed book!

Just a reminder: Perfectly Imperfect – New Book Give Away Interested in receiving a “FREE” autographed copy of my new book Perfectly Imperfect: Moving Above and Beyond the Pain? In order to be eligible for the book give away, you must complete a review of my book excerpt between 11/14/2015 and 12/15/2015. There are four questions…

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Spirituality: Humanly imperfections

One of my faults lies in my “worrying gene”. Often, I allow myself to worry over “this” and “that” while I am well aware that my worrying never has or ever will resolve an issue. I have often imagined how wonderful it would be to be a little more carefree like raindrops or leaves that…

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He + Me = We by: Sonya A McKinzie

He flows through my mind like streaming water Then drips down slowly All over me Then he bursts Roaring into an explosive eruption down pours All over me He His love is all over me His love is inside of me He and me He + Me = We Connected to create we Our creation…

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Colorfully black and white, wouldn’t you say?

It is funny how my creative, yet constantly thinking mind works, it seems that from every conversation I have whether it is with a stranger, friend, family, or co-worker somehow I walk away with a new outlook on some perspective in life.  Like a child released to the “world” I am filled with curiosities and…

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Trust Issues by Sonya McKinzie

You won’t catch me in a weak moment To trust means to be vulnerable To trust means to believe in you And I don’t trust you Perhaps, I do not trust myself When I trusted someone before They broke my heart into two pieces trust issues are a result of giving in to vulnerability for…

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non-factorial black girl

She is a visionary. Her mind is filled with mind-boggling designs of imagery. She leans on dreams, theatrical, hypothetical dreams. She knows exactly where she wants to be personally, professionally, and spiritually but realistically she does not know how to achieve what seems to be the in-achievable. While she carries herself with confidence, it is…

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My Blueprint by: Sonya McKinzie

  Beautiful Brown eyes Lips full and supple Skin like warm honey Laughter that radiates And brings joy to all in her reach My Blueprint When she smiles The world smiles around her When she walks She is carefree Innocently running here and there Beauty surrounds her She is a creation That is spiritually Emotionally…

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Powerful words of encouragement (Hump Day)

The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within – strength, courage, dignity. –Ruby Dee All great achievements require time. –Maya Angelou Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine within yourself so that you can hear it in others. – Marian Wright Edelman Is solace anywhere more comforting…

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True friends vs fair-weather friends

As I was laying here in the middle of the living room floor at 2:01 a.m. surrounded by homework assignments and reading materials, my mind started to wonder. I began to think about the expectations that “we” have of others. Often, we assume that our family, friends, or associates can read our minds and know…

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Conditioned by God’s design

by: Sonya McKinzie Imperfect As we should be Perfect and Conditioned by God’s design Destined for a oneness Bonded to one another With God at the center Fittingly impeccable as companions Authentically tied to one another For now And for eternity Copyright © 2015 by Sonya McKinzie. All rights reserved. This poem or any portion thereof may not be…

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Real Love is

by: Sonya McKinzie Love Real Love is deeper than what you can see on the surface Love Real Love is stronger than any raging storm It is blind It is loud It is silent Love Real Love is undeniable Undeniably true It is the unity between me and you Love Real Love is invisible It…

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Our seed

by: Sonya McKinzie Our seed planted in my soil and we call her beauty planted deep inside of me through conception  she was created  when we united intimately our creation with our thread our creation has been woven divinely inside my womb she blossoms inside of me growing into a beautiful rose petals that openly slowly…

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Again and again

by: Sonya McKinzie Again and Again I’m dreaming of you when I am awake Staring into your mesmerizing eyes brown and shaped like perfect almonds Your lips resting against my forehead Your fingers are on the small of my back Your cologne is all over me Your arms hold me tight despite your hold on me I…

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Daddy I need you….

by: Sonya McKinzie When I am sad melancholy feeling a little mediocre missing the presence of you That gentle kiss you place on my forehead I have no qualms about saying “Daddy I need you” Your touch is like a cold drink of water on a hot summer night Your words caress my ego pushing…

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Control vs Choices

  Countless are the faces of people who have at some point experienced a sense of helplessness or hopelessness. Losing complete control and realizing that they cannot regulate what is entirely out of their hands. No means of beginning or stopping a situation, but instead being forced to allow nature to take its course of…

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Song of Solomon: Basking in love and sex in marriage ….

As a Human Services Major attending a Christian college, I am required to read various materials associated with mental health that is associated with diseases, addictions, abuse, amid many other subject matters. This term, I am taking Healthy Sexuality and Sexual addiction. These two courses are two of my three last courses required to complete…

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Reflection in a mirror

  Today I had a very candid conversation with someone. This person placed a mirror before my face and there I sat staring; looking back at this beautiful black woman and I began to remember… how I came to be a woman of confidence, happiness, and peace. No, every day is not perfect, but it…

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Think. Dissect. Recollect. Rationalize and Contemplate on it.

  There is nothing more rewarding than finally reaching a goal that you struggled to reach, or obtaining something that you strived to get especially when you overcame countless obstacles along the way. It is like being in the darkness and unable to find a small shimmering light after walking miles, miles, and more miles. And…

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Bare. Naked. Cleansed, fresh, and new…

In the presence of God, bare and naked….. at the center of the four corners of the walls, and down on bended knee and head bowed in prayer, I say “God, what is it that I am to do”, “How should I serve your graciously in your kingdom”, and “Where is my place, home, and destiny”…

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Acoustic by Sonya McKinzie

  Acoustic  Written by Sonya McKinzie Our soul sings a ballad Songs that unite us Mentally, spiritually, and intimately acoustically we vocalize passion deep desires in our hearts In unison our bodies take to flight In the darkness our sensual fire ignites Souls that are dancing in the moonlight acoustically musically we are lost in one another…

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Authentic sexuality

Authentic sexuality by: Sonya McKinzie Prolific is she authentic sexuality hips designed to bear fruit She is simply blessed blessed by God our savior God has gifted her with children like an apple tree in a vineyard fertile a result of God’s design the union of a husband and wife sacred, in martial bliss conceived from God’s kiss…

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What is meant for me ….

What is meant for me by: Sonya McKinzie What is meant for me cannot be taken away from me. While I might endure struggles with trials and tribulations along the way the result is God’s divine mercy on me; his sacred intervention, and favor in me defines what is meant for me. No one person…

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Too Stressed, Too Long

  It seems like forever since my last posting here and I have missed this. As you all know, poetry and blogging are two of my most prized loves however life has taken me away from them far longer than I care to admit as a result of “going through life” in its generalist terms. My 2015…

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Surrendering to your heart

“When you have compassion and surrender to your own heart, you are surrendering to the hidden power in your heart, God. You are surrendering to love, because God is Love, the cohesive force of the universe that connects us all. Surrender is not just a religious concept; it’s a power tool for listening to the…

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Getting over a broken heart

  “My heart might be bruised, but it will recover and become capable of seeing beauty of life once more. It’s happened before, it will happen again, I’m sure. When someone leaves, it’s because someone else is about to arrive–I’ll find love again.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Zahir

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A Black Woman’s Lingering Pain

Sitting here on a Saturday evening, I am watching the rain hitting against the grass outside of my balcony door and immediately mind wonders to being in deep conversation, snuggled up and spending quality time unwinding. Then I think about my little one asleep in the other room taking her afternoon nap and begin to…

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Abstinence: A Single Mother’s Journey

This is a personal journey that I am currently in the midst of. I am on day 270 of my 365 day journey. It was not until a few days ago when I began to evaluate my current lifestyle and my relationship status, that I realized just how long it had been since I shared intimacy with…

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Reflections (2014)

  It is at this time of year that most of us begin to reflect on the entire year – reflecting on our year, blessings, and the not so great things we endured through out the year. Often, we might find we are regretful for things we did or did not do and when it…

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Beauty is..

Beauty is defined by eyes of the beholder In it’s presence it could be humble It could be arrogant Or unknowing Beauty goes deeper than the skin Beauty goes deeper than the surface Beauty is eloquent Beauty is spiritual Beauty is emotional Beauty is soulful Beauty is pure Beauty is dirty Beauty is clear Beauty…

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When the chips are down

Over the past month, I have found that I have not been as faithful to my followers as I normally am. I have not been faithfully posting and sharing, encouraging, motivating and, purging myself of my day-to-day ins and outs and I apologize. Somewhere along the way, I have allowed the monotony of life to…

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Spiritual Bread Written: by Sonya McKinzie

Sister girl I have been there and did that Forgiving but never forgetting The words The abuse The disrespect The brokenness The bruises emotionally and physically After years and years, I had enough And I broke away Walked out the door Closed it behind me Gathered up my shattered pieces Regrouped Started new Rebuilt the…

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1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you”

  1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

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Removing weeds from the garden….

This past weekend I did some much needed work in my personal garden. I cleared away some weeds that were there much too long. While clearing away the weeds, I found one hidden deep in the soil and dug it up. Then I removed it permanently; it being someone who I allowed to play a part in my life when…

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