Be Happy now…


Self-worth, what does it mean to you?

I think that it is normal for people to experience trials and tribulations; without them we would never grow and change. The amount of change, roads traveled and learning experiences encountered varies from person-to-person. As crucial as we can be on ourselves, it is utterly important for us to give ourselves credit where it is due. We all have different goals and priorities which are all apart of defining who we are as people. It is unfair to compare ourselves to others and their accomplishments simply because no two people are the same.

It is important to concentrate on self-awareness to know your value and worth. This is one of many stepping-stones to successfully assessing our personal growth. Personally, speaking I was once connected to what, how and where I thought I should be personally and professionally at various points of my life. This thought process was created by my views of society, the same society that judges us without a second thought and no emotion. Over time, I have learned that this is not unnatural because society is and always will be an influence on humanity. Society includes people who we classify as role-models, people who affect our lives whether it is from a positive or negative stand-point.

While we have people in our lives to give directives, it is ultimately our responsibility to place value on who we are. God guides in the direction he would have us to go and we have the choice recognize our worth and nurture growth, do you know your self-worth?

Yes? What does it mean to you and how much do you value yourself?

Psalm 139:13-16 says we are fearfully and wonderfully made, and all the days of our lives were written in God’s book before we were ever born, confirming God’s prior knowledge and plan for our lives









Even when times are hard, be diligent and faithful to God and his purpose for your life

Today, I had the pleasure of speaking with a wonderful Christian woman while by telephone. Her call was one of my first calls of the day. During our 20 plus minutes or so long telephone conversation, I learned of the countless hardships she was encountering in her life. From that unique and beautifully illuminating conversation stemmed a miraculous outcome; an outcome that affected me both personally and professionally.

During our conversation, we shared like experiences both in our personal and professional lives and that we both felt God was forcing us to sit still and listen to what he was trying to tell us. As women who liked to be in control of their lives and the outcomes wherein, we shared our complete understanding that God is in control and drives our lives no matter how in control of our lives “We” as Christians think we are.

She shared some very simple yet grounding words with me “Take time for yourself and God. Find a quiet place and pray. Give him is time” because sometimes people get so busy they forget and then are forced to sit down and give him his due time. Unfortunately, this was her case and because of this situation, she had to temporarily retire from her place due to her medical situation.

In this sad moment of having to retire, I shared with her that “While this profession might be your passion, God has something bigger in store for you. He felt the need to sit you still, so you could hear him and receive clarity of why you are enduring these things”.

In that moment, she began to cry; I didn’t know if I should feel bad or glad. She shared with me that she was OK, and the tears were good tears and she shared how appreciative she was for the conversation we had earlier this morning. I told her, that I am glad I could give a sense of comfort to her and shared my blog with her. I also shared with her that while she is sitting still and waiting for God to do his work on her and in her life, she should write, journal. Wouldn’t you know it?

She shared that she already was doing that and that she too loved to write. What an amazing moment. God started my Monday morning with her for a reason and God allowed us to share that moment on the telephone because we were beneficial to one another. She was reassured that someone else was experiencing similar circumstances like hers and her suffering was not in vain.

Sometimes, we are shocked when we go through trials and tribulations especially when feel we are being faithful to God and his will for our lives. Sometimes our trials are presented simply because our faith in God is being tested as shared in the Bible verse 1 Peter 1:6-7.

God wants us to remain faithful no matter how hard and trying this might be. In the end, there is a purpose for what we are going through.

God loves you!

Be blessed,


Ms. Darkskinisbeautiful

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed


“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them”  Iyanla Vanzant, Yesterday, I Cried

Mediocre by Sonya McKinzie


I yearn to be all in,

But I cannot place all my cards on the table,

Where does this indecisiveness end,

One foot in the front door and the other out of the back door

Hot internally, but frigid externally,

Filled with strength and yet I am weak,

Joy rests inside of me,

And sadness resides outside,

A portion of me exudes happiness, the other is melancholy


Yes, I am


Got damn,

This is temporary,

The mood of the day,

I picked this flavor,

My emotional ice cream,

Not chocolate or strawberry

It is more like vanilla,


Thinking, recalling and remembering where I started from….

Love this artwork of Lauryn Hill! This artist is dope!This morning on my way to work, I was thinking about the number of obstacles that I have persistently overcome in life.  While my life stories are not the same as the next person’s, I have many testimonies to share.  I remember in July of 2003, I relocated to the Atlanta, Ga area with $2,300 to my name and no job. I made the decision to make a change in my surroundings to make some progress in life.  I was fresh out of a domestically violent relationship of 13 years and unsure of what I would endure however I was determined not to return to my hometown in South Ga because the opportunities for growth both educationally and professionally were few.

Upon relocating to Atlanta, I secured a job at an answering service that was about 30 minutes away from my apartment in Marietta, Ga. It was not a great job, but it was a job that paid fairly well in comparison to having no job at all. Approximately 3 months after securing the first job, God blessed me with another. I was able to secure a job with a great non-profit organization and was due to start it in December of 2003. I decided to keep my job at the answering service part-time, and then after several months I decided to move to Duluth, Ga to be closer to my job and opted to leave my part-time job. Shortly after that, I opted to buy a home in 2005 and obtained a part-time job at the local Kroger’s to make extra gas money on the side, not because it was necessary but because I wanted to make sure that I was financially secure after purchasing my home. After learning to keep up my bills and home, I decided to resign from my part-time job and started college.

In 2005, I started an Associate’s Degree program in Business Administration, continued on to get my Bachelor’s Degree and now I am within 4 classes of completing my Master’s Degree in Human Services Counseling with a focus in Family and Marriage. The interesting thing about all of this is I was able to complete my Bachelor’s and near completion of my Master’s Degree all while being a single mommy.  God has favored over me. He has allowed me the opportunity to self-publish a book and now I am near completion of my second. God favors and I know this because of all that has blessed me with.

Yes, I am single but that is because he hasn’t crafted me to perfection. He is working on me, flaws and all.

I am blessed, how about you? Think about the fact that you are breathing here today and loved – that alone is a blessing….


Ms. Darkskinisbeautiful